Emotional drifting is a normal part of relationships, but what starts out small turns into a ravine before you know it.
It never feels normal.
The added pressures of life can kill a relationship. Duty becomes the death of desire.
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Our ability to connect with another depends upon our connection with ourselves. This means that we need to open our hearts to learn from all our painful feelings. When you learn to fully embrace all of your painful feelings – with a compassionate intent to learn, you will be able to keep your heart open with your partner. When your partner is also able to keep his or her heart open, the two of you will connect.
Connection with your partner will occur easily and naturally when you and your partner have the courage to fully embrace all your feelings with a deep intent to learn. You will easily and naturally connect with each other when you are both openhearted and connected with yourselves.
I help couples begin to recognize these painful patterns and to share more of their vulnerabilities again. Couples begin to understand that no one wants the cycle to happen and to see how they hurt their partners unintentionally.
Together, we create a space that is safe for the couple to grab hold of the negative cycle and begin to build a pattern that will make them feel safe and close again. Within the safety of our work, couples reveal to each other their longings for security and closeness as well as their fears about being vulnerable.
Quickly, couples learn to identify how to be and grow with each other.